It seems to me that the "gay community" is "trying" to be heterosexual in a way. By wanting to follow what the heterosexual community is doing when it comes to "marriage". I posted on my Facebook page about this exact thing, and received very little feedback from my gay friends. Many of which I have known for a number of years. The gay community is fighting for something that they want, but in the same turn, they are not sitting and listening to what many others are saying either. They want, what they want, when they want it, any more.
I have read many articles for and against this same topic, by many different people, backgrounds, races, etc. The one main thing that I keep seeing over and over in many heterosexual articles is, "why does it have t be called marriage?" I ask this same question and get no response. Why does it have to be called Marriage? As creative and unique as the "gay community" claims to be, why can't a number of groups get together and come up with something else to call it, instead of marriage.
Let the heterosexual community have their thing, we are NOTHING like them at all in any way, shape, or form. We ARE different in many ways. We know how to take care of our own, we know how to bust our asses to get things we want, we certainly can dress better (not like we also don't dress the heterosexual community as well), we decorate better and know how to do it without having to run to someone else for help, we take care of children that apparently people in the heterosexual community don't want (handicaps, older, etc.) and raise them to the best of our ability and sometimes better than many heterosexuals raise their own. There are many things that are unique and different about our community, so why in the hell would gay/lesbian people want to emulate others and be followers?
With all of the creativity this community has within it, I am extremely confident that they can come up with a "different" word to use to say we are a couple. This is something that the heterosexual community is asking for, so why not back down on the word "marriage" and find another way to say we are just as good as you not matter WHAT word is used. Whats the big fricken deal about a word, use another, its NOT that hard is it? Unless you ALL want to actually be heterosexual and you are all NOT as different at you claim or NOT as creative as many of you claim. Is the gay community THAT determined to be followers? If you are, have fun with it, cause there are many of us out here that really don't give a damn. Its a WORD people, wake up and learn to actually listen to what others are saying. STOP making fools of us all by doing stupid things and being stupid like many of your groups are being.
Not ALL of us out here are followers like it seems many of you are. My partner and I are trying to plan a "ceremony". We are not calling it marriage, because its NOT. We really don't care about the piece of paper that gets framed to hang on the wall and collect more dust. We want to be able to show to our family and friends our "commitment" to each other, we don't need to show it to the world. We are happy together no matter what. So, in saying all of that, we don't NEED a word to say we are together.
Now "gay community", its up to all of you to give in and try to find another way to say you are "married", or to continue fighting and be followers, and be heterosexual. Up to you all, think about it.
Sunday, August 5, 2012
Monday, July 30, 2012
Its The Little Things
Watching TV, reading posts on Facebook, reading articles online, etc., etc. about all the stupid things that people seem to completely flip out over is completely astounding to me. The color of a cookie's filling, what a restaurant believes and tries to push down others throats, what others believe and they try to push back, the name calling on both sides or all sides of the fence, with many other things that I can't possibly touch on in this short little article. There are bigger things in life than worrying about all of this crap, but people just don't seem to see the whole picture. What they can see or do see, is the little thing that is right in front of them at the time and not look at what else might be going on around them. They concentrate on that thing so much, that they lose sight of everything and sometimes, everyone else around them.
All these groups that all seem to "think" they are right in the way they are thinking, things they are doing, things they are posting. Not ONE of them will stop, sit, and listen to what anyone else is saying at all. They all want what they want right then and there, without thinking of the possible consequences of what that might bring if they get it. One group starts yelling, then they all start yelling louder than they last. Till there is so much yelling, posting, etc. They lose sight of the original idea.
It was said to me, that I am "reaping" the rewards of what others are doing. But for me, I have not seen any rewards, nor do I want those "rewards". I am here for me and my partner, no one else had to hand us anything, nor do we want anyone to hand us anything. We are happy together and to us, that is all that matters. Regardless of what everyone else things, feels, says. We do not care. As long as we are happy, that is the big picture for us. As far as the "little things", we care about those as well, our friends, our pets. So as far as "rewards" go, I have all the rewards I want and those "rewards", are ones I got on my own.
As far as all this other crap goes among different "groups" that want things then and there. Sit, listen, relax and take a look around you. See all the things you are missing, things going by that you will not be able to get back again because you let the moment pass you by. Go to the ocean and just sit and listen...the waves, the birds, people enjoying their time there and together. Go out into the woods and listen...the birds, other animals that might come by, the breeze blowing through the trees. Then when you have done that, come back and listen again....to what others might have to say that you can learn from them, others opinions even if they differ from your own, learn something that might actually help the "cause" you are trying to fight for.
Its the little things that actually count in life, the moments that you make for yourself, not what others might be there to give you, the hand that reaches out for yours to hold, the lips that you kiss each night before you go to bed because you never know when those lips will be gone. Its all these little things people just seem to take for granted and not hold onto on a daily basis. If more people did that, the big picture might just become a little clearer for you and yours.
All these groups that all seem to "think" they are right in the way they are thinking, things they are doing, things they are posting. Not ONE of them will stop, sit, and listen to what anyone else is saying at all. They all want what they want right then and there, without thinking of the possible consequences of what that might bring if they get it. One group starts yelling, then they all start yelling louder than they last. Till there is so much yelling, posting, etc. They lose sight of the original idea.
It was said to me, that I am "reaping" the rewards of what others are doing. But for me, I have not seen any rewards, nor do I want those "rewards". I am here for me and my partner, no one else had to hand us anything, nor do we want anyone to hand us anything. We are happy together and to us, that is all that matters. Regardless of what everyone else things, feels, says. We do not care. As long as we are happy, that is the big picture for us. As far as the "little things", we care about those as well, our friends, our pets. So as far as "rewards" go, I have all the rewards I want and those "rewards", are ones I got on my own.
As far as all this other crap goes among different "groups" that want things then and there. Sit, listen, relax and take a look around you. See all the things you are missing, things going by that you will not be able to get back again because you let the moment pass you by. Go to the ocean and just sit and listen...the waves, the birds, people enjoying their time there and together. Go out into the woods and listen...the birds, other animals that might come by, the breeze blowing through the trees. Then when you have done that, come back and listen again....to what others might have to say that you can learn from them, others opinions even if they differ from your own, learn something that might actually help the "cause" you are trying to fight for.
Its the little things that actually count in life, the moments that you make for yourself, not what others might be there to give you, the hand that reaches out for yours to hold, the lips that you kiss each night before you go to bed because you never know when those lips will be gone. Its all these little things people just seem to take for granted and not hold onto on a daily basis. If more people did that, the big picture might just become a little clearer for you and yours.
Friday, June 1, 2012
Bullying
When I was a kid in school, doesn't matter what age or grade, I was bullied all the time. From being called "four-eyes" cause of glasses to the way I dressed. This is going back some 30 years ago and you didn't hear about it at all on any news or in the paper. Now a days, you hear about it all the time, even worse, the kids that are getting bullied, killing themselves of things that are said to them or teased about. The suicides probably happed back when I was in school, but no one knew or realized why they were doing it. Probably said they were just depressed or whatever other reasons.
I just have to say to the parents of bullied kids, I know what they are going through, as many parents themselves were bullied as well. But, many parents probably don't even know it is happening to their kids, or that their kids are DOING the bullying. This is where they NEED to get more involved with their kids lives and not use excuses for not doing it. The kids doing the bullying are possibly getting bullied at home themselves, so schools should be talking to each and every child in their care to find out what is going on. Even if that involves seeking other kids that might be older to talk to the younger ones, since more kids really don't like talking to adults about things.
To the parents of the kids that are doing the bullying, wake up and watch your kids. Find out where they are going, what they are doing, and most importantly, WHO they are doing it with. Get strict with them, if they rebel, get stricter yet. Stop letting them do what they want, when they want, and with who/how they want. If you can not watch them, than you shouldn't have had them in the first place. Or better yet, give them to someone that can watch them and will know what is going on in their lives, because its very apparent that you can't or won't.
To the kids that are bullying. Think about this...what will you do when you are grown and have kids of your own that are getting bullied? Most likely, you will blame it on the schools because they are not doing enough to watch your kid. Which will more than likely be the case. What will you do when your kid commits suicide because they are getting bullied? Blame someone else? Again, more than likely. As I said, think about all of that and than see if you want to continue bullying someone else. Because if they kill themselves because of things you do and you say, what kind of person will that make you? In my eyes, that will make you a murderer.
To the kids getting bullied. GOOOOOOOOO and talk to someone, anyone...your parents, teachers, the police, etc. Just get yourself out there and don't be afraid to point out who is doing it. Most places will not tolerate what is being done that the person/people will be dealt with. Do not just take it and move on like you are supposed to do that. Until you DO something about it, say something about it, it will continue and you could very well end up being worse off for it than if you had said something.
This kind of thing should be taught at home. NOT in the schools. So parents, do something, talk to your kids before they end up dead like many have already. There should be stronger laws for the bullies and for their parents.
I just have to say to the parents of bullied kids, I know what they are going through, as many parents themselves were bullied as well. But, many parents probably don't even know it is happening to their kids, or that their kids are DOING the bullying. This is where they NEED to get more involved with their kids lives and not use excuses for not doing it. The kids doing the bullying are possibly getting bullied at home themselves, so schools should be talking to each and every child in their care to find out what is going on. Even if that involves seeking other kids that might be older to talk to the younger ones, since more kids really don't like talking to adults about things.
To the parents of the kids that are doing the bullying, wake up and watch your kids. Find out where they are going, what they are doing, and most importantly, WHO they are doing it with. Get strict with them, if they rebel, get stricter yet. Stop letting them do what they want, when they want, and with who/how they want. If you can not watch them, than you shouldn't have had them in the first place. Or better yet, give them to someone that can watch them and will know what is going on in their lives, because its very apparent that you can't or won't.
To the kids that are bullying. Think about this...what will you do when you are grown and have kids of your own that are getting bullied? Most likely, you will blame it on the schools because they are not doing enough to watch your kid. Which will more than likely be the case. What will you do when your kid commits suicide because they are getting bullied? Blame someone else? Again, more than likely. As I said, think about all of that and than see if you want to continue bullying someone else. Because if they kill themselves because of things you do and you say, what kind of person will that make you? In my eyes, that will make you a murderer.
To the kids getting bullied. GOOOOOOOOO and talk to someone, anyone...your parents, teachers, the police, etc. Just get yourself out there and don't be afraid to point out who is doing it. Most places will not tolerate what is being done that the person/people will be dealt with. Do not just take it and move on like you are supposed to do that. Until you DO something about it, say something about it, it will continue and you could very well end up being worse off for it than if you had said something.
This kind of thing should be taught at home. NOT in the schools. So parents, do something, talk to your kids before they end up dead like many have already. There should be stronger laws for the bullies and for their parents.
Saturday, February 11, 2012
All I See
So so so much hurting and hate in the world today. Just as much right here in this country alone and its not going to stop any time soon. If at all. Everything that is put on the television, on the news, only goes to show me that people are getting worse and worse. They kill and hurt each other for the stupidest things. Just because they do not like who someone is sleeping with, dating, are dressed, etc. Even our Government, they jump into areas they shouldn't be jumping into. So many people in this country that are hurting, trying to make ends meet, but aren't. Our government going and constantly giving to other countries because they can't make their own country work well and the people here going down hill faster and faster. I watch on the news all the jobs that were supposedly added, BUT the only people that can get them are the ones that are trained for them. Most people I know can't even afford the schooling to train for any of those jobs. Its the rest of us that are looking for jobs but can't find one, McDonalds, to over qualified, or some places don't even have the balls to call or anything to tell you that you are not good enough to work for them.
Than you have agencies like Social Services that just GIVE people money that do not even need it and screw the agency out of thousands of dollars every year. The people that are sitting at home, living in luxurious homes, wearing brand name clothing, driving new cars, while their boyfriends are working. Or in one case, married to the person, living in a mansion and still getting monetary and food assistance. When there are others that can't even get it that need it. Something wrong with that picture?
Panhandlers sitting and collecting, from what i heard, over $500 a week, and not even needing it. With stupid people still giving it to them out of their car windows. Can point out at least 10 people here in my area that sit with signs on off ramps collecting money from people. Maybe that is how I should work it, come up with a sign and sit there collecting money that will not be reported to the government for the taxes. Easy life at that point.
People with kids and the kids doing and getting away with pretty much everything. Why? Because the parents are either to stupid or to busy to know or care what or where the kids are. I can understand if there is only 1 parent and they have to work. They can't watch what the kids are doing every minute of every day. But its those parents that I see in stores, to busy looking at other things instead of watching what their kid is doing. No wonder why so many kids go missing on a daily basis. Cause its that parents fault for not watching them and seeing where they are or what they are doing. Most people should have to get a permit to have kids, and they people that have the kids now, should have them taken away. Many have the kids so they can continue sitting at home and collecting from the government when they should have their ass working.
All I see is this country going down hill faster and faster. Its not there yet, but third world is coming soon right around the corner. People in this country don't care, because if they did, they would all be heading to Washington to have or get something done about it. A posting I wrote a while ago still stands. I am NOT proud to be an American and would leave this country quick as hell if i won a lot of money to do so, not looking back.
Than you have agencies like Social Services that just GIVE people money that do not even need it and screw the agency out of thousands of dollars every year. The people that are sitting at home, living in luxurious homes, wearing brand name clothing, driving new cars, while their boyfriends are working. Or in one case, married to the person, living in a mansion and still getting monetary and food assistance. When there are others that can't even get it that need it. Something wrong with that picture?
Panhandlers sitting and collecting, from what i heard, over $500 a week, and not even needing it. With stupid people still giving it to them out of their car windows. Can point out at least 10 people here in my area that sit with signs on off ramps collecting money from people. Maybe that is how I should work it, come up with a sign and sit there collecting money that will not be reported to the government for the taxes. Easy life at that point.
People with kids and the kids doing and getting away with pretty much everything. Why? Because the parents are either to stupid or to busy to know or care what or where the kids are. I can understand if there is only 1 parent and they have to work. They can't watch what the kids are doing every minute of every day. But its those parents that I see in stores, to busy looking at other things instead of watching what their kid is doing. No wonder why so many kids go missing on a daily basis. Cause its that parents fault for not watching them and seeing where they are or what they are doing. Most people should have to get a permit to have kids, and they people that have the kids now, should have them taken away. Many have the kids so they can continue sitting at home and collecting from the government when they should have their ass working.
All I see is this country going down hill faster and faster. Its not there yet, but third world is coming soon right around the corner. People in this country don't care, because if they did, they would all be heading to Washington to have or get something done about it. A posting I wrote a while ago still stands. I am NOT proud to be an American and would leave this country quick as hell if i won a lot of money to do so, not looking back.
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